Agreeability

 “I have found it of enormous value when I can permit myself to understand other people.”

Being right is one of the best feelings out there. Making people know that you are right is something that is programmed inside every single one of us since birth. It gives us fulfillment when we prove someone else wrong and we are right. But that fulfillment it gives us, is not lasting. This fulfillment feels great in the moment, but later you feel empty and ashamed of making another person feel worthless. 

Why do we feel this way? Wasn’t our goal to prove that we were right?

Maybe at the time it was. But as we grow, we learn that being right all the time isn’t worth it. We learn that making others feel good about themselves is more fulfilling than always being right. 

Key: Become more agreeable.

As it turns out, the more agreeable you are, the more people you attract. People don’t like being told they are wrong. They crave to be told they are right, or they are important. Obviously, you should hold our own opinions on things, that is what makes you an individual. But when it comes to arguments, most are worth dropping. When your ego is in danger, you feel like you have to do all you can to protect it. You argue our points until you have made a fool out of yourself. Then you are back to where you were when you started, if not worse off. 

Practice this every single day. When an argument arises, quickly become the most agreeable person. Be quick to admit you are wrong. Be quick to agree. The other person will most likely drop the argument, and you have won. You showed them that you are the more diplomatic being. You showed them that you have self-control and self-awareness.

That feeling is better than winning an argument. No characters were hurt, nobody left with hard feelings, nobody was brought down, and you leave feeling like you did the right thing.

Be quick to see the other person’s point of view and accept it for what it is. Seek out new perspectives. See where people are coming from. And never, never think you know it all. Because you don’t.

Socrates said it perfectly:

“One thing only I know, and that is I know nothing.”

You see a trend with the wisest men in history. They never admitted their wisdom. They never strongly argued their points. They never brought others down.

Take notes.

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~Thank you for reading. My goal is to help teach others ways to better themselves while doing the same for myself. This is The Exploration.~