Create a life you love

 “The happiness of your life depends on the quality of your thoughts.”


I used to live an unhappy life, but I could never quite wrap my head around why I was unhappy. Everyday I would wake up waiting for a day where things would get better. It was almost like I thought a certain amount of time needed to pass and then things would just get better. Anticipation of what was to come was the only thing that filled my thoughts. I affixed myself on the upcoming weekend, or the upcoming summer, or when I turned a certain age. I was constantly looking forward to something. But then it hit me, spending my whole life anticipating the future was removing me from the present.


Something finally clicked in my mind. I was becoming so excited about the future that when it finally came, it could never live up to my excitement. Therefore, I was let down and just as unhappy as before.


Realizing this, I recognized something needed to change.


Changing went in waves. I would become more present for a short time but fall back into my old ways of anticipating a future that couldn’t live up to my anticipation. It took years to finally break out of living in the future and constantly reminiscing how good it used to be. The tipping point for me was realizing that I was the one in control of my thoughts and actions.


I was an unhappy person because I let myself be. I was stressed out because I let myself be. I was overwhelmed because I let myself be.


I was living all wrong. I was stuck because I was afraid to change. Finally, my mindset shifted and a wave of opportunity came.


I realized that I could do whatever I wanted. Every single decision or action I made was me. Every single thought that went into my head was under my control. I began to create the life I love. 


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Want to love your life? Then make it a life you love by:


  1. Accepting your current state

  2. Taking complete ownership of yourself

  3. Living the way that makes you happy


Let’s break these down further.


ACCEPTING YOUR CURRENT STATE


The place you are right now is not the place you have to stay forever. Some people thoroughly believe that they will never become any better than they are now. And that’s fine for them to say, because they won’t. Improvement comes from realizing where you are now, recognizing it’s not where you want to be, and making a change. You made the choices that got you to where you are right now, so you can make the choices to get out of the situation. If you believe you are stuck in a situation, you are. But if you believe you can escape, you will. Accept where you are and make a change.


TAKE COMPLETE OWNERSHIP OF YOURSELF


I once heard about a man that took full ownership over everything that happened in his life. He even took ownership for things he couldn’t control such as tragedy, other people’s actions, and events that happened nowhere near him. This is an extreme example but what did this man have more of than anybody else did? Control. When you take ownership for everything in your life, you are regaining control over everything. You are accepting that YOU have influence on anything that happens to you. This is a terrifying feeling right away, but once you accept it, you feel powerful.


LIVE THE WAY THAT MAKES YOU HAPPY


Each person is made up of unique, genetic material that makes them who they are. Every single person has a different set of activities and feelings that make them happy. Figure out what yours are and do them. Quit living a certain way because that’s “the way I am supposed to live.” Fuck that. If your main goal in life is happiness, why are you following somebody else’s route to happiness? It’s not the same as yours, I can tell you that. I have realized what truly makes me happy by knocking down the doors of my comfort zone and experiencing new things. And when I like things, I pursue them. Quit trying to socially conform to what people want you to do. Do what makes you happy. 


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Now that you’re hopefully inspired, go take action.


Make the change today.


Create a life you love.


What are you waiting for?


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~Thank you for reading. My goal is to help others better themselves while doing the same for myself. This is The Exploration.~


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