Disappointment

“Sometimes letting others down is required to bring you up.”

Nobody wants to let other people down.

That is why you are constantly attuning your actions to those of the people around you. That is why you have a hard time saying no to people when you know you should. You are afraid of what others will think about you if you disappoint them.

Do you know what this is called?

PEOPLE PLEASING.

People pleasers are those who do anything the possibly can to satisfy the needs of others. 

I have met a lot of people pleasers in my life. And yes, they are usually extremely well-liked people but they are always missing one thing:

PURPOSE

People pleasers don’t know where they are going in life. They don’t have self motivation. They are simply doing what makes others happy. They are not the ones in control. They are controlled by disappointment avoidance. 

Don’t get me wrong, I believe that it could be your goal to help others and make others happy. But that is not what people pleasing is. It is simply doing what you are told to do because you don’t know what to do if you aren’t told. So instead, you do what ever you can to not let others down. 

Relationships are one spot where people lose track of what they want.

When you start talking to someone new, you begin to change some of your ideas, beliefs, and values to what that person thinks. This is natural, and not a bad thing. But it becomes bad when you lose sight of what your own values are.

I have seen friends of mine completely lose their own voice because they are in an relational vicegrip caused by their significant other. They are smitten by the person they are with so they completely give away any personal dreams or goals they once had.

Don’t be as afraid of disappointing others as you are of disappointing yourself.

If you let somebody else down, they will get over it.

But if you let yourself down, that will stick with you.

I have disregarded my own dreams too many times because I have been worried about fulfilling somebody else’s. 

But then I constantly remind myself, the only person that is with me at the end of each day is me. And if I am disappointed, I have failed.

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