Relationships pt 2

“Don’t be afraid to give up the good to go for the great.”

The most freeing word in life:

No.

I no longer feel guilty for saying no. It finally hit me that the people that have been around me forever are not the people who I need to stay around forever. I used to always feel guilty saying no to a friend even when deep down I knew that there was nothing beneficial to me in the relationship.

I found myself falling into a loop where I would work on myself and just use it to please others. I kept returning to dried up wells with my glass of water and tried to fill them up. But all they did was accept my water and use it for themselves until they dried up again with nothing to give back. I was doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result. Do you know what that is?

Insanity.

The fear of dropping the good to pursue the great scared me. The idea that maybe the good was the great kept running through my mind. But the reality of it is, if a relationship isn’t filling your cup too, it’s not great. It’s not even good. It’s simply not worth your time.

Time is the most valuable asset you possess. By giving your time to something that doesn’t deserve it, you are telling yourself that your time has no value. Feeling invaluable makes you depressed. This is the root cause of sadness. And the sad part is, you might be doing it to yourself because you are afraid of pursuing the great because the good is good enough for you. 

The most successful people say “no” more than “yes”. 

They say no to temptation, instant gratification, empty friendships, false opportunities, and comfort. The most successful people only say yes when something aligns with their clear-cut purpose in life. 

Yes, part of my purpose is to care for and be there for my friends. But, when a friend doesn’t give anything back in return, that is not a relationship worth cultivating. I have given all I can to that plant and it still won’t grow so when do I quit watering it? 

Decisions you have to make regarding people who have been in your life for seemingly forever are the toughest. 

But in the end, it’s just you. 

When it comes to sanity and growth, I think the right call is to always trust yourself. You can only control what you do. You must pursue your personal goals even if it requires leaving people who were once important to you in the dust.

Sometimes leaving them is what is best for them.

It finally forces them to fend for themselves. Maybe you have been holding their hand for too long and it’s finally time for them to walk alone.

It takes years to see the effects of this, but someday I hope to see it clearly.

Until then, I must walk alone on my own path. Those who wish to follow, can follow, but I will not force anyone to come with.

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Thank you for reading.

I appreciate every single person who happens to stumble across these deep sentiments buried in my subconscious.

I hope if you’re here you can relate.

My goal is to help others better themselves while doing the same.