Authenticity

 Authenticity


Most people don’t enjoy the brutal, honest truth. In fact, most people would rather have the truth sugar coated so that it is easier to swallow. The issue is that by not saying what you actually mean, you are creating ambiguity. Ambiguity leads to weaker relationships, delayed disappointment, and increased anxiety.


Ambiguity leads to weaker relationships. Straightforwardness and relationships go hand in hand. To form a stronger connection with someone, you have to tell them how you feel. Dancing around your feelings only creates uncertainty within both parties. Most people put on a facade that shadows their real feelings and only displays the more appealing sides of themself. We all know these people. The people who are inauthentic have a variety of relationships typically, but hardly any of them are deep. They find it more important to make friends than truly be honest and authentic with people. Therefore, their relationships suffer. 


Ambiguity leads to delayed disappointment. What will happen if we avoid the truth now? We will be disappointed by the truth later. Not being honest with yourself and others in the present will cause you to have to face the truth down the road, and usually at that point, things are a little more disappointing. Being authentic upfront with someone will decrease the chances of running into misunderstandings in the future.


Ambiguity leads to increased anxiety. When you know that there is something a person is hiding from you because they are hiding behind a facade, you become anxious. You become anxious that the things they do tell you are not actually true. Our minds are able to gauge whether a person is telling the truth or not. When you feel like someone is not telling the truth, you feel uneasy and uncertain. To combat this, we must become authentic without what we say to people, and how we treat people. Say what is on your mind and you will decrease your anxiety. One of the worst feelings is regretting not saying what was on your mind.


Be authentic with yourself and with others. Be honest and face the truth. The truth may hurt now, but it will hurt worse later. It is easy to sense authenticity so become the person that people keep returning to. Authenticity will strengthen relationships, eliminate future disappointment, and eradicate social anxiety.


~Thank you for reading. My goal is to help teach others ways to better themselves while doing the same for myself. This is The Exploration.~


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