Comparison

 Comparison


The best way of feeling like a failure is comparing yourself to others. It is nearly impossible for us to not feel envy. It is wired into our brains. Envy is good when it motivates, but it is detrimental when it demotivates. Use comparison as a tool to make you better rather than an ambition dampener.


We have all heard the phrases “only compare you to you” and “don’t compare yourself to others.” Both are valid adages but is it even possible to only compare you to you? I’d say not. What is possible is comparing yourself to yourself when you look at progress and comparing yourself to others when searching for motivation.


Other people are the driving force in most actions you take. Think of how little things you would do if you were the only person with an opinion. Our decisions are largely based on the interests and opinions of the people we spend the most time with. So why not use others as your comparison? When you see people you want to be like, you should ask yourself how you can get there. Use their example as the force that drives you.


The times when looking to others is detrimental is when it makes you overlook how much you have accomplished. It is extremely easy to beat yourself up over what you have done in comparison to others in a certain facet. But what have you done in other facets that they haven’t? This is the very question that we seldom remind ourselves of. First, reflect on what you have done to grow yourself in each facet, then use others to make goals on where you want to go. 


Having a guideline for where you want to go is beneficial. This allows you to have an example and be able to track your progress as you go. Make others your tutorial. Use the tutorial and grow from it, but don’t follow just the tutorial. Once you have learned the process and actions you wish to take, track your personal growth. The best gauge of your progress comes from within.


~Thank you for reading. My goal is to help teach others ways to better themselves while doing the same for myself. This is The Exploration.~


Comments

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

untitled 729

  As if they’d never end I can feel the end begin Just as it did before I walked out, shut the door Won’t step foot there anymore Flashbacking, backtracking To warm water splashing As the sand swirls And I hold you close to me Because I know it makes you feel Like it makes me feel Now it’s realer And faces once familiar Have become distant characters In our memories of yesterday Where was I? Did I find what I tried to find? Because in some ways I feel blind To the thoughts of my younger mind Somewhere in the meantime I got caught up in this screen time Lost the deeper meaning Just following the street signs
Read more

short 1

  “You coming or what!?” My sunburnt eyelids slowly opened to the same bright sun as always. Half my body hung over the side of the bus stop bench. I still felt hazy from last night’s fix. “Dude, I’m doing you a favor here!” I looked up to be blinded by a bright red car holding up traffic at the intersection. Horns were blaring behind him as he scolded me from the car. It seemed like the horns didn’t even bother him as he sat back in his seat with his head nearly touching the roof and his eyes stuck on the dirty windshield in front of him. Confused as to what was happening, I got up and cleared the dust from my eyes. I grabbed my bag and made my way over to the dented passenger side door of that red car. He rolled the window up and let out a deep sigh as I approached.  “It’s Sam, how ya doin?” “Hey I’m M-” “It’s not short for anything either, it’s just Sam. What you feelin man?” “I’m, uh, I’m pretty, uhhh-” “Music, man, music!” He slammed his hand on the steering wheel. “What ...
Read more

marais

Sometimes I still feel like Mentally I am here Sailing to shore with the wake Maybe I wish I was Maybe it’s just my way To escape Whatever it is- Who cares? Because when there are waves I don’t even notice Because the sun shines Bright, where the trees break And the waves are no longer danger Instead they fade into The sounds of the lake Superior to be 19, Grand Marais 20 whatever I feel it everyday Seagulls squawk But to me they say Happy birthday Even though it’s just another Ordinary day Though a sky like this Doesn’t just make for another day … When life was a mess I never even prayed When I had no faith You still showed your face And I still think about it Every single day.
Read more