Relationships

“A popular man has many friends, a powerful man has close friends.”

Creating relationships is a need that we all look to fulfill. A good friend will get you through the toughest of times. A group of friends will form an army that’s on your side. 


As I have examined relationships more, I have realized a dichotomy exists.


Either 

  1. A person has few, but deep relationships

  2. A person has many, but shallow relationships


You may want to argue this point but before you do, take this into account:


The more time you spend on developing deeper relationships, the less time you have to meet more, different people. But in the same sense, the more time you spend meeting new people, the more your close relationships suffer.


So which do you choose?


Many friendships will allow you to win the popular vote, but deep friendships will leave you feeling fulfilled and valuable. 


For me, I will always choose the latter.


The value I get from investing my time in fewer people far outweighs the value I would get from meeting as many people as possible. Not to say that I don’t make an attempt to meet people. I believe surface level relationships allow you to stretch your influence. 


To do this, I keep myself open to meeting everyone I can, but if I can’t sense the value in going deeper into the relationship, I keep it at a surface level.


I used to never even attempt to keep myself open. I simply made judgements on people I had never even met. Majority of the time, my judgments were far from the truth.


Allowing myself to be open to new relationships has also allowed me to create some of the most fulfilling relationships. When I let my guard down, became confident in myself, and lived life the way I wanted to live it, the important people magically appeared. Some were people I would have never imagined being acquainted with. Life has a way of doing this.


So here’s the message:


Stay open to new relationships, but don’t invest time in stagnant ones. 


Staying open allows you to be introduced to new perspectives that being guarded would never allow you to. 


See the value in each person, but invest in those with the highest value to you.


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~Thank you for reading. My goal is to help teach others ways to better themselves while doing the same for myself. This is The Exploration.~


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