Become what attracts you
“Ask for what you want and be prepared to get it.”
Certain qualities are generally deemed attractive.
An athletic build, good skin, good health, confidence, a clear mind, and intelligence are all things that I find attractive in a person. This isn’t limited to a mate either, this is anyone I come across. There has to be a reason I am naturally attracted to these types of characteristics. I started asking myself why these types of features are “attractive.” Here’s what I came up with:
YOU ARE ATTRACTED TO WHAT YOU VALUE
Every characteristic I mentioned is a result of a person’s lifestyle choices. These characteristics are achieved by living a healthy, active lifestyle, eating healthy food, taking care of oneself, and being dedicated to improving mental cognition.
I value all of these things, therefore I found the products of those lifestyle choices attractive.
YOU ARE ATTRACTED TO THE IDEA OF GROWTH
The aforementioned characteristics are things that I know would help me grow as a person. They are what I want to become, so I need to surround myself with people who possess them. Obviously if they have what I want, they are doing what I need to do to get them.
You are a product of the 5 people you spend the most time with.
YOU ARE ATTRACTED TO WHAT YOU AREN’T (YET)
A lot of the things I find attractive about people are things that I have not either had the time to achieve, or I have not put in the effort to achieve. It attracts me to them because they have done something that I have not, I admire that. Whenever I meet someone with a story different from my own, I am more attracted to them because I want to continue hearing more about their story because it is new to me.
You always want what you don’t have.
Now that I have established 3 reasons why you are attracted to what you are, let’s go over how YOU become more attractive.
The law of attraction says:
YOU ATTRACT WHAT YOU BECOME.
Therefore, you will bring people to you who are similar to you.
So…
Want to be around people with a lot of money? Make more money!
Want to be with someone who is fit? Go to the gym!
Want to be with someone who can cook? Learn to cook!
The people you attract are a direct result of who you become.
One thing I always ask myself is:
WHAT WOULD MY IDEAL MATE WANT IN AN IDEAL MATE?
If I ever want to find the person that is best for me, I need to be the best for them before I meet them.
My ideal mate is athletic, healthy, smart, knows to cook, loves to learn, loves to travel, loves to grow.
Therefore, I need to do all of these things. I need to be the best I possibly can at these things so when this person steps into my life, it is obvious I am who I want to be.
Think more about what you like about other people. Think about who you would like to ideally spend the most time with. Then ask yourself:
Am I someone they’d wanna spend time with?
Am I good at the things I like other people to be good at?
Am I helping people grow into the person they want to become?
If the answer to any of these questions is no, it is up to you to fix it.
You control who you attract by the person you become.
Become the person that is attractive to you and you will attract the people you want in your life.
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Thank you for reading!
My goal is to inspire self-improvement in others through my personal stories and experiences.
This is The Exploration.
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